To All The Men In The World, Please Forgive Me...

(Written by Miss Illinois US Beauties Jordan, published in the "Celebrating the Success of the Modern Woman Online Magazine' on 02/08/10)

To all of the men in the world, please forgive me…

Forgive me demanding the respect that every female deserves.

Forgive me for wanting to be equal to you instead of beneath you.

Forgive me for being a strong woman who stands up for myself and what I believe in instead of "doing what is expected of me" as a woman.

Forgive me if my appearance is not perfect in every way. I don't look like the women you see in Playboy Magazine. I don't have blonde hair, my hair and skin are quite dark.  My breasts aren't a size DD, they are only average size. My facial features aren't perfect like an actress or a supermodel's; they feature traces of another ethnicity. I am not tall and willowy, or even close to being a normal sized person. In fact, I am much shorter and smaller than possibly any other woman you will ever meet. As time goes by, I will slowly age and lose whatever beauty I have. My skin will slowly become dull and wrinkled, my breasts and backside will start to sag, and there will be fat and cellulite in places where there wasn't any before. After many years, I may no longer resemble the woman I was when I was young.

Forgive me if I request that you be my partner in a committed relationship before you are allowed to sleep with me. As a human being and a woman, I deserve to be loved and respected and not treated as an object to be used for someone else's pleasure. Even though we may live in a world in which a female's attractiveness and worth is based on her sex appeal and willingness to engage in sexual activity, I still believe that my body is sacred and should only be shared with those who treasure and respect it as much as I do.

Forgive me if I am not a replica of your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. I cannot look like she did, act like she did, or do things exactly the same way she did them. I cannot be someone else's replacement, nor would I want to be. I don't want to take another woman's place in your life; I want to have my own special place in your life. I cannot be her; the only woman I can ever be is myself.  I'm sorry that you will have to accept me as myself and expect me to be no one else other than myself.

Forgive me if I don't make a lot of money or come from a wealthy family who can give me anything I want. I don't drive expensive cars or live in a beautiful mansion. What little I have wasn't handed to me; I had to work very hard to earn it. I can't give you a luxurious life or buy you expensive gifts. All I can do is gladly share with you what little I have and give you my love and care, which will never run out as money and riches eventually do. I can't buy you a beautiful mansion, but I can turn the house we have into a comfortable home filled with love, security, and peace where you can come home to every day.

Forgive me for honoring values such as fidelity, honesty, or keeping promises…and forgive me for expecting those same values from you. Forgive me if I ask you to remain faithful to me even when there are other women all around us who are far more beautiful than me. Forgive me if I am determined to hold us together through the difficult times instead of just calling it quits when things get tough. I'm a person who believes in fighting to keep something good alive and putting forth effort to make something work when I think it's worth it, even if the rest of the world doesn't believe in this anymore.

Forgive me if I like to do simple little favors for you such as making a hot meal for you to eat, taking care of you when you are sick, supporting you in all your goals and achievements, or offering you a shoulder to cry on in your times of sorrow. These aren't things I would do to try to smother you or annoy you; these are just things I would do to show that I care for you. They have no monetary value and can't be shown off to others like expensive gifts can, but they come from my heart. Please don't think of them as meaningless, for I would never offer anything I thought was meaningless to someone I care about.

Forgive me for requesting that you not assume I will hurt you or be dishonest towards you simply because someone else did. Even though you may have been hurt or betrayed by another woman before, I am not her. I cannot hurt the ones I love. You won't need to question my motives, or where I go or what I do when you are not around me. I will hide nothing from you; I will gladly share with you all my secrets, personal facts, and stories. I will not abandon you or cheat on you when things get tough; I will be your steadfast rock that you can lean on during your times of trouble.

To all the men in the world who have chosen another woman over me, forgive me for all of these faults of mine and for everything I am and for everything I am not. If you are looking for perfection, then you are wise to pass me up, because I am far from perfect. My physical appearance is flawed, I can't give you every material possession you could ever want, I can't be a clone of another important woman in your past, I hold onto old-fashioned outdated values, and sometimes I will do things for you that most people view as meaningless and unimportant. It's easy to see why so many potential mates have passed me up for a better woman.  A less-than-perfect woman like me is not something that most men want to be with. I understand how easy it is to choose the buxom blonde bombshell who enjoys engaging in casual, non-committed sex, or the wealthy princess who has everything in the world and wants to be spoiled and pampered by her man every waking moment, or the weak woman who is content to be a doormat and let a man tell her what to do. But if there is ever a man out there with a big enough heart to choose me and accept me as I am, then I promise it will be more than worth it for him.